What's more, they need security and friendship. No matter how strong a man is, he needs support; no matter how independent a woman is, she needs backing. The flowery girls may care about nothing but amusement, and they may not consider even the reliability and capability of a man. Middle-aged women, however, are much more practical, and they have to face the loyalty and creativity of a man. What they are seeking is the most loyal, the most responsible, the most powerful, the most reliable and the most trustworthy love which is nearly eternal and unchangeable. Any kind of strike may wear away their youth which is once gone never to return.
Middle-aged women must keep a clear head instead of doing things out of willfulness. They should be able to judge who is sincere and who is hypocritical. Once they choose the hypocritical instead of the sincere out of carelessness, tragedy will definitely fall on them. In fact, one whim may decide whether they will live in heaven or stay in hell.
All women have one weak point—they are easily enchanted by men's flattery. There're numerous sweet-tongued men, but loyal ones are hard to find. They may use sweet words to flatter you or they may be soft-spoken and submissive, but that is when they are weak and in need of help. As soon as the situation is different, they may change immediately. We always think the weak is the reliable, but this is misleading. The weak may be pitiable, but not always reliable. Reliability doesn't mean being weak or strong, but depends on whether one can master himself. If someone, when absent from home, does what he dares not do at home, then how can he be regarded as a trustworthy man? www.xuexue6.com
The middle-aged women, with the exception of those who work at special posts, needn't fight too hard. Instead, they should encourage men to temper themselves in this world. Studying with ease, working with ease, living with ease and facing everything with ease are what middle-aged women should try to do. Ease is the symbol of ever-lasting youth and also the glamour of all middle-aged women.
May all kindhearted women enjoy an easy life and ever-lasting youth!
Translated by Zhang Baodan
June 20, 201x
中文
人到中年是个坎，女人们会面临更多的考验。青春似乎还在，却容不得大意和放任。保持青春已如爬坡，任由衰老会一泻千里。吃青春饭的行业，则面临着重新择业和转行。
如今毕竟是灯红酒绿的时代。到处是闲花野草，到处有妩媚妖娆，搞得没有定力的男人们晕头转向、身不由已，从而让中年社会由衷地感到：女人不能老。
www.xuexue6.com www.xuexue6.com美容保健业所以日渐发达，化装品市场所以如火如荼，也正是为了保住女人们这张青春艳丽的脸。适时和适度的美容、美发、美体，对女人们是完全必要的。但这毕竟是表面文章。表面文章能维持多久呢？人不能 24 小时都在脂粉的遮盖下渡过。卸装之后怎么办？
女人需要修身养性，需要增加内涵，也需要安全感。我们也可以说：男人的青春在事业，女人的青春在心态。
因为阴盛阳衰现象的存在，我们看到许多忙忙碌碌的女人们，挣命似地在运筹着、工作着。她们曾经很有姿色，至今风韵犹存，但毕竟徐娘半老，长此下去保得住吗？
女人们在追求什么呢？金钱？就算她们如愿以偿，最后成了富婆，用衰老的枯掌去数钱，会幸福吗？
也许在追求阔宅豪车。但这些都应该是为人服务的，就象我们可以骑摩托而不能扛摩托一样，如果这种追求成了负担、成了压力、甚至付出青春的代价，那还值吗？
或者为孩子留学出国。可出国留学并非是每个人的追求。且不说儿孙自有儿孙福，众人的成长也不会都走一条道路。从商从政，从文从武，各不相同。有人选择了下棋，下好了，边玩边豪华一生。你一定把儿女送出国，国外也有不少陷阱啊！何必熬着自己的青春最后把孩子送到那可天可地的国度？